CAN SOMEONE IN ANOTHER TOWN SPONSOR ME
THREE PUFFS OF SMOKE SIGNAL AN EMERGENCY
I personally do not agree with long distance sponsorship, only perhaps in the most unusual or dire of circumstances. When local personal contact with someone able to sponsor in A.A. cannot be made or during a sudden relocation while in the middle of serious step work and then only until a timely transition can be made. The face to face communication between a sponsor and a sponsee is both rewarding as well as necessary. Most communication is non verbal (I canâ€™t hear what youâ€™re saying because your actions are too loud). The internet has suggested internet sponsorship. I have not as of yet participated in this format so until I do, I can not say for sure. My gut feeling is wherever and whenever possible, one on one is the most productive and the most rewarding and the most edifying for both the sponsor and the sponsee.
HAVING A SPONSOR OUT OF TOWN IS LIKE WINKING AT A PRETTY GIRL IN A DARK ROOM, YOUâ€™RE THE ONLY ONE WHO KNOWS WHAT YOUâ€™RE UP TO
Mr. Five by Five has suggested these tools:
We need to physically meet with our sponsors regularly. The early warning sign of slippage is most appropriate to the nose.
- It is difficult to work the Steps from a remote location. Eye to eye, hand in hand, it might not be love, but we do the best we can. Certain Steps, in fact require a sponsee and a sponsor to be together. Old timers or newcomers, one thing is always true, we never stop working the Steps: itâ€™s what sees us through. If youâ€™re not working the Steps you might be sober but youâ€™re not in recovery.
- Sometimes our mirror dulls with age. A new sponsor is like a fresh coat of paint. We get that new look as well as a new perspective on ourselves as well as our program. This also helps to avoid â€œrestus laurelitsâ€Â.
- A new sponsor; another word for new is review. We review the Twelve Steps and how we have or have not worked them. This review can help us in pinpointing the weeds or the jungle of inactivity.
- There is a popular notion of the legend of the unicorn sponsorÂ or the romance of the soul mate sponsorÂ and from the popular song title â€œMy One and Only Sponsorâ€Â because I am just so special. Remember if youâ€™re one in a million there are six thousand just like you. We are not so specialÂ that only one in the world is right for us. We need to be willing to go through the process of opening ourselves up once again to another human being