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Emotional immaturity


You have to grow old; you never have to grow up

When I was a child, I spoke as a child; I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. (The difference between Men and boys is how much they love the size of their toys)

MY MIND IS MY GARDEN
MY THOUGHTS ARE MY SEEDS
If I WAS A BLOOMING IDIOT
ALL MY FLOWERS WOULD BE WEEDS

ADULTS ARE ALWAYS ASKING LITTLE KIDS WHAT THEY WANT TO BE WHEN THEY GROW UP BEC– USE THEY’RE LOOKING FOR IDEAS

Some suggestions to determine if your outer child is holding your inner child hostage:

  1. Accepts criticism gratefully, being honestly glad for an opportunity to improve knowing the person criticizing is probably in worse shape.
  2. Does not indulge in self-pity. He has begun to feel the laws of compensation operating in his life now he can pity everyone else for a slight fee.
  3. Does not expect special consideration from anyone until  they realize who they are dealing with.
  4. Controls his temper, otherwise its Joe versus the volcano.
  5. Feelings are not easily hurt except for the occasional dropped hat or misplaced sneeze.
  6. Meets emergencies with poise; he can run over anyone and flees with grace and ease.
  7. Accepts the responsibility of his own acts without trying to alibi as he can point out the usual suspects who are known for such familiar behavior.
  8. Outgrows the all or nothing stage. He recognizes that no person or situation is wholly good or wholly bad, and he begins to appreciate the Golden Mien- The man with the most gold can afford to be mean and the rules don’t apply to him.
  9. He is not impatient with reasonable delays. He has learned that he is not the arbitrator of the Universe and that he must often adjust himself to other people and their convenience understanding when it comes to his wants and needs no delays  are reasonable let alone justifiable.
  10. Is a good loser; can easily endure defeat and disappointment without whining or complaining, giving him sufficient time to cool off, as revenge is a dish best served cold.
  11. Does not worry unduly about things he cannot help, prefers to worry about the things that can be done thus relieving him from the burden of doing anything.
  12. Not given to boasting or showing off in socially unacceptable ways; has learned to grandstand with the humility of a veiled chameleon.
  13. Is honestly glad when others enjoy success or good fortune; has out grown envy and jealousy knowing that some of their dumb luck might rub off or may even gain some other kind of personal benefit.
  14. Is opened minded enough to listen thoroughly to the opinions of others; it’s the only way to know when it his turn to speak.
  15. Not a chronic fault-finder; can find no fault with himself. It’s hard to be humble when you’re perfect in everyway.
  16. Plans things in advance rather than trusting to the inspiration of the moment. The take-over of the world remains on schedule, Pinky, the devil is in the details.

MY SPIRTUALITY HAS SO MATURED IT HAS APPLIED FOR IT’S OWN SOCIAL SECURITY

  1. He has faith in a power greater than himself, although not much greater just enough to get by.
  2. He feels himself an organic part of mankind as a whole, contributing his part to each group of which he is a member; refusing to join any group that would accept him as a member.
  3. He obeys the spiritual essence of the Golden Rule: Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself when you fall in love with thyself it is the beginning of a life long romance.

DISCLAIMER
IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THESE UNDERSTANDINGS YOU PROBABLY HAVE CHECKED YOUR LOOSE GARMENT AT THE DOOR

 

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