Julianna Patricia Allison wrote;
I started my sobriety on Jan 19, 2011 due to circumstances beyond my control, my husband went into rehab for alcohol abuse so I quit mostly for that reason, I don’t have a sponsor, and I could use someone to talk to, thanks
My oldest daughter who had passed away from this disease was a Juliann, and my sister is a Patricia. It sounds like you’re having a rough time of it, which is often times the case in early sobriety.
That reminds me of a story. There was a knock on the farmer’s door, it was his neighbor, good day, and can I borrow your ax? He brazenly inquired. The farmer stated unequivocally, I am building a well and need my ax… Well if that is the case, thank you anyway said the neighbor as he turned quickly on his heels and left. As the farmer was closing the door his little son was standing behind the door, previously unseen but privy to the conversation, the boy looked up with a confused question of inquiry, Dad you’re not building a well? The farmer quipped son when you don’t want to do something any excuse will do!
‘If you’re not going forward, you’re going backwards’
Pat you’re being beset upon, and when you try to grow spiritually you will be opposed spiritually for nothing grows without opposition. As your husband went off to rehab he was taking care of himself and has left you alone and without familiar company and the support of a lifelong companion. At first this looks like a drizzmal proposition, being alone with one’s thoughts, with your only company is alcohol and the pity party mirror of regret and despair. A change of attitude will change the world around you, the gift of desperation and pain will lead you to where you will find relief, in the rooms. This is a great and precious time for the dedication of your own recovery without the encumbrances chores and duties to insure the needs of another.
If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone John Maxwell
You’ve got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather was.
A sponsor would be critical for you sobriety if not your sanity. Take advantage of the fellowship; let the girls know where you’re at. Most women especially new in sobriety have a hard time relating to or feeling comfortable around other women and would rather seek the company of men. Strong sober women are a mainstay and the heart of long term recovery this is a great opportunity to open up, you will be pleasantly surprised at the compassion and understanding that awaits you, and all you have to do is ask. This can be a very daunting experience fraught with fear and anxiety, I would say to you trust in the process and trust in God and great things will come to pass as you join us in the fellowship of the spirit and watch a fellowship grow up about you as we trudge the road to happy destiny together. Remember and this too shall pass, take the action and God will meet you as you take that first Step. Your experience will make you uniquely qualified to put your hand out to a girl who is exactly like you are now and you will be able to take her through to the sunlight of the recovery door
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