There is no such thing as a perfect sponsor or a perfect sponsee we can only share our E, S and H. We have put together a sponsorship website where we address some of theses questions RumRadio.org
The section on questions that sponsors ask about sponsee’s, might be a big help. Tips Techniques and understandings from program literature and experiences from sponsors from around the world. It’s good to remember that all a sponsor can do is suggest, the decision to work the Steps or even to stay sober is the sponsee’s. Our one immunity from alcohol is intensive work with another alcoholic, this activity works when other activities fail. We don’t take blame if they drink and we don’t take credit if they stay sober.